Well, now that you have mastered the art of choosing a name and finding food, you certainly must now learn how to make friends. There are a few rules you must follow to ensure that you don’t end up a part of the Hardees’ crowd (see post on “the restaurant decision”).
- There are no acquaintances in a small town. There are friends; there are enemies; and there is family. You do not just run in to someone and choose to ignore them because you have only met them briefly in line at the grocery store once two months ago. No! You must act as though everyone you meet has been your best friend since birth. Because, if you alienate too many people (or even just the wrong few) you will be left to join the fast food crowd.
- You must smile at everyone. Refusing to smile, nod, or in some pleasant way acknowledge the other’s presence is seen as the epitome of rudeness. People without manners will have few friends in a small town. So, whether driving by a total stranger who is unloading groceries out of their car or waiting in line at the store, whether you are on the phone or completely stressed out, whether you have six screaming kids or are alone, you must do this! (As a cultural side note: race, gender, and age have no play in this – everyone means everyone!)
- You must make small talk at all times. The grocery store clerk, the preacher after church, the lady washing her hands in the restroom all expect some amount of small talk. Even if the jerk in question ran over your prize schnauzer last week and never acknowledged the incident, you must act as though you are delighted to see him/her. Here are a few good options for small talk:
- Flattery: “Hey Mary Catherine, you’re looking great!” “Oh Janice, is that a new blouse?”
- Family: “Hi Johnny, how’s the family?” “Oh Margaret, how are the boys?”
- Heat/humidity: “Honestly Mary Ann, can you believe this heat!” “It’s hotter than a Baptist funeral in here!”
- Manly Sports: “Hey Billy, been fishin’ lately?” “Hey Malcolm, you make it out for duck/deer/whatever-relevant-game season?”
Following these simple rules you should be on your way to making friends (or at least offending fewer people) in your small town adventures. Best of luck to you!
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